Anger and the Loss of Self

When anger infects the mind and contaminates the heart, you risk losing yourself.

You are no longer whole. You fragment.

Anger arises when your truth has been denied, trampled on, crushed by another. Not as a misunderstanding, but as a violation. It arrives as a raw, incandescent force, determined to annihilate whatever feels unjust to you. Yet while it strikes outward, it tightens inward. It closes the heart. It severs you from love.

Anger is potency. It is destructive.

And its force shows no mercy, neither to the other, nor to yourself.

Beneath anger lies suffering. A suffering that cuts into flesh and blood, that reaches the most vulnerable place within you. You want to cry. But anger will not allow it. It demands destruction before feeling. To strike before collapsing. Only after the object of pain has been annihilated is pain permitted to surface.

Here, the risk is at its peak: the loss of the self.

This inner tension is, not infrequently, at the root of killing, destruction, abandonment. Anger is not merely a reaction; it is a defence. It validates the ego when it feels threatened, rejected, excluded. In an attempt to preserve its sense of righteousness and belonging, the ego may unconsciously destroy bonds, love, community.

And it does so without realising that it is, in fact, destroying itself.

Simina